((( )))
Why are you going to try and talk with him?

I think you need some legal advice. What your proposing sounds reasonable to me but it may not be the best legal move. I don't know.

And who knows how your H will see it.

Is there a place in your town that provides free legal advice for women? Did you ever check out the online support groups for alcohol problems. They might be able to steer you to some pro bono or low cost options. Do you have family who can help you to at least get a consult with a L?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss