Four weeks in, hopeful but just starting!

[labug]

This is all very difficult, isn't it?

When your H doesn't show up when you expect (there's that word) remind yourself, that it's his life and he is free to live it as he wants.

Just as you are.

You said this,"but no hints about what anything "means" going forward." You don't need to wait for hints from him, build your own "going forward." I know it's not easy but it's doable and necessary.

Your H is going through his own emotional turmoil. I'm not apologizing fro him but he's trying to separate from you while still living in a house with you. Of course he's going to be standoffish, maybe even rude.

Hang in there, you can do this.