I have time for just a quick post. I haven't read your whole backstory, so I'm not quite sure what kind of troubles you're having communicating with your h. I would recommend the "men are from mars..." book. Some people don't like it but I found it very useful.
I'll check back when I have more time. I think it's time for bed.
Hang in there!
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14