I won't give up II

[Notlikingthis]

Portia, Thanks for posting. I've been focusing on myself for the past few months and there really hasn't been too much to report. I'll go over to your thread and see where Skippy is in his journey when I'm finished here.


Things have been status quo for the past month. Up until today my h has been up and down with contact. He goes from contacting me every other day to once or twice a week and then back again to almost daily contact. He seemed to be pulling away little by little and redefining our relationship or what's left of it. We have had no R talks just friendly convos mostly via phone.

Today things seemed to change dramatically. He is irritated that I didn't confide in him about the ow's husband making a surprise visit a few days ago. Late this afternoon he sent the following: "Just so you know, I am unhappy about xxxxx's surprise visit. It was not appropriate. Taking appropriate steps". I'm just now realizing what he meant. I did respond with a simple "okay" before I realized what he was saying.

In hindsight, I should have just ignored the text and let him take whatever he thinks are "the appropriate steps". In his eyes, this is his long awaited excuse to take legal action (separation/divorce). Because I didn't warn him about her h coming to town he sees it as betrayal!!!! That is certainly grounds for legal action. LOL This is so incredibly ridiculous.

I will patiently wait for his "appropriate steps". I don't feel obligated to explain anything to him and definitely won't defend myself but I do want to be ready for whatever he throws at me. I have re-read one the threads that has the responses, "I'm sorry you feel that way", "this isn't what I want" etc. but somehow I can't hear myself keeping it to the "canned" responses this time. God knows what I'll say but I'll do my best. I'm a bit rusty on Dbing so any ideas on how to respond without sounding canned are appreciated.

Just to fill in a few things that have been going on with h and ow. The house that my h bought and now lives in with ow has some serious legal issues around it. When he told me about it he indicated that he may be reversing the transaction on the house completely! In other words moving out and looking for another house or ????? The previous owners didn't give full disclosure when they sold the house. If it come down to reversing the deal, I'm not sure what he'll do. If he was thinking about dumping the ow, this would have been his chance. With the latest events, I don't think that this is going to happen any time soon. He says he's not stressed about it but I know that this will put him over the edge. He didn't do well with any type of turmoil prior to mlc so I can't imagine that he will now.

All I can do is pray and let God take care of it and him.