Well, I talked with my H yesterday about the OW. Told him I found out second hand and that I was not happy about that - felt disrespected and disappointed that he didn't let me know ahead of time so we could avoid an awkward situation - we live in a small town. I said it felt like we are in high school. H said he would have never thought to call me and tell me. I said even though it's a bitter pill to swallow no matter how one is told, to find out second hand (and him knowing full well the person he told was going to tell me)hurts even worse. That I'd appreciate he be honest and open with me.
I also said that for someone who said he was going to treat me with the respect I deserved, I must not deserve much because the way he has handled this whole thing has been disrespectful.
Also asked why he has a hard time seeing me. Says he can't stand to see me because it hurts him to think how much he is hurting me. He can't wait til this is over so we can talk as friends - really? Like I will be capable anytime soon for that??
Much more was said but in the end I ended up emailing him,thanking him for talking with me and hoping he could understand how I feel. Said I wanted us to go through this process smoothly with honesty, openess, kindness and fairness. That we're both pretty beat up.
Felt as though I had nothing to lose since divorce is a reality. Just wanted to get that stuff off my chest with him. Did I totally make things worse?
Me 59 H47 M12 T22 No kids BD&S Apr 2,2013 - ILYBINILWY Filed 2/12/14 OW 11/13 The Universe always strikes you at your weakest point because that’s what most needs strengthening." – Joseph Campbell
