That text, I retread it. I don't see a want to reconcile anymore. I read someone who at best doesn't know. Still loves me but not in love with me. Still has no time for me and doesn't want to make it. Still deflects with excuse after excuse.
I mean come on. "I lost the passion"? I gave her 14 years as best I could. I have nothing else to interest her.
Here's the thing. I don't know if I said this before. When we first dated, she was in a bad place. Broke, single mother with no support, lost her job. I think when she saw me she saw a guy that wanted to be there for her. I think she had an idea in her head of what she wanted based on what she needed. I think that when she stopped needing, I didn't make sense anymore. Maybe I'm full of crap. It just seems that way right now.
2S2Q, I get it. My lie is very similar. We each have times when we feel like we need to walk away. I did I yesterday, but I'm still having a rough time with it.
My W also was a single mom and broke when I met her. I was her "knight in shining armor" hen that wasn't needed anymore and I would keep getting more stuff and didn't want to but the horse farm she always wanted, she left. She'd say differently, but the timing was pretty much what I just said. and she hasn't bee "into me " for a lon time. No matter how much I played the part of the doting dad or perfect H.
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14