Calling class back in session from the long winter break
Alrighty...let's get back to the program. TVS: Another mushy romantic? Have you been drinking from that Kool-Aid punch bowl too? I think I'll need to take away the bowl privileges from the class.
Magic: You have a quite number of good posters on your thread.
'd love your perspective as to why my H, is stringing me along (undecided if intentional or not). And if you did that as well to Mrs. W
Never. We are very confused and foggy from the MLC. You hear them say one thing one day, then the next day a different thing. It is all down to MLC confusion. Not a deliberate act of stringing along you. Absolutely not.
What advice do you think Mrs. W would give to the LBS of the MLCer?
I don't think at all. Because Ms. Wonka has never been on this site and isn't a DBer. So it is hard for me to even speculate on what her thoughts would be. We'll never know. DXW:Thanks for stopping by here. As humans, we are emotional creatures. The trick is to recognize them and have a healthy relationship with them. Whatever that may be to you. Being honest and authentic with ourselves is a difficult path indeed. The added bonus is being able to be self-aware as they crop up. Ohh...the rewards...oh my! Worth it.
MyWay: Hiya! Glad you're here in my class. Didn't you just sneak in quietly without me noticing you at all? Ah...the shy student, heh?
Did you think about Mrs. Wonka while you were in the fog? I have heard that MLCers cannot stop thinking about the LBS and children yet act as if they cease to exist. I am wondering if that really is the case. It is hard for me to fathom that my H ever thinks of anyone but himself and the OW.
Yes, I thought about Ms. Wonka often and looked to her for actions. As mentioned earlier, I was depressed and feeling pressure coming at me from all corners of the world. It is due to the pressure itself that we push the LBS away--HARD. We want you guys to get the f*ck out of our faces. You're just one added source of pressure that we don't want or need in our lives. Regarding the OW/OM, it is our drug of choice...dopamine effects that affects our brains thus our actions are out of the ordinary. The saying goes here..."this is a crisis." Yep. Unfortunately, it affects everyone around the MLCer when there's OW/OM involved.
If anyone close to you (family, friends) etc. HAD tried to talk some sense into you, do you think it would have mattered?
Please keep in mind that the MLCer withdraws from friends and family. So if they tried to talk to me or talk sense into me, I'd brush them off. I'm not the problem. Also I hated, hated the fact that 1,000 pairs of eyeballs were judging me. We stress here in the MLC forum not to judge, preach, badger or nag the MLCer for it introduces pressure to them. Then they all head back into the tunnel.
Did you begin to show signs of duress (physically) at some point during the MLS? My H looks terrible...as if the life is being sucked out of him.
I probably did to some extent. Over Christmas of 2003, I became so physically ill while staying at my parents' house that my father got me in the car and drove me to the emergency room. He had to prop me up a bit as I walked into the emergency room. I'd like to see this as MLC intervention as it, to me, broke the MLC fever for me. The fog started to dissipate and I came out of it around March 2004.
CourageousWife: Glad to see that my thread helps you a bit!
Maybe I missed it, as sometimes I am in my own fog, but how long from start to finish did it take for you to navigate the MLC tunnel?
Start of MLC: May 1999 End of MLC: March 2004
Close to 5 years, honey. I bet the length of my MLC tunnel circled the Earth several times over!
