Staying strong but seeking support with H LDEA

[DrAnnie]

H came over about a week ago supposedly to talk about the "settlement agreement" document I drafted and gave to him a month prior. We had a nice quiet dinner at home with baby and then I asked him if he had anything to say prior to chatting about the doc. He didn't say much and had some issues with the amount of child support and minor stuff...I let him speak since this is part of my new me!

At some point the conversation went to what we really wanted, and he said since we are both check out...and this is where I told him that "I never said that I checked out" what I said is that I couldn't be in a marriage with someone who was having an emotional affair and not willing to stop". Since it was getting late, I gave him an option and told him to think about moving in with baby and I on our third bedroom "as a roommate" or if he was willing to as re-entering our family...he said he needed time to think about it.

We ended up talking most of the night and he stayed over in the couch since his sister is about an hour an half away. I would love for some opinions on how long did you wait for your spouse to re-enter...I can see that at least he stopped talking to the OW...and it maybe a month until I can afford another DB coach session.