Hi Bright Future - thanks for posting and i am very sorry to hear about your own situation. is there another woman involved? I am only 5 weeks since BD so it is still fresh for me. In that time I have found a place to live, after travelling from the other side of the world to get home, moved my things (and D's) out of his house - he has cut us off - coldly asked for me to leave our keys on his kitchen table as I was leaving for the last time last week and accused me of stealing his shampoo and conditioner. Crazy things I have been reading a lot here and so much of WAP makes sense in terms of depression , self medication with OW etc. But the biggest pain is the apparent deletion of myself and D......for this new "beginning", for his "rejuvenation".... Thank you for encouraging for me to keep posting. I have had a bad day - I am hoping tomorrow will be better.. x