Everything above is incredible...I will say it again...INCREDIBLE advice. Follow it!!!!
As for the snooping....it needs to stop. You are like the a dog chasing a moving car...You know it will hurt when the car hits you, but you are doing it anyway. I know the "why" you do it, but there is nothing to be gained and in your current emotional state......you will only lose. You have no idea what was said and then you jumped off the emotional cliff....The reality is that by snooping you did it to yourself.
Be the man no woman can resist....snooping isn't on the path to that goal.
