Your right on if it's meant to be it will happen. It just frustrates me at times that W was so quick to hook back up with old high school boyfriend; the reasons she gave were 1. they already knew eachother 2. it was convenient (if 31/2 hours away is convenient) 3. she knew he would drop everything & help her out, & he did. As I've been reading different articles that were assigned to me as "homework" I think W is having a MLC. This old high school romance is letting her re-live her youth again, driving up to hometown to see old friends who still live there included.
While W is out running around I am working on bettering myself, reading books, & writing on the forum to gain knowledge & understanding. I took a look at the things in the relationship that I messed up on & am trying to work on those things. These things included thinking of myself first instead of placing family first, being selfish, getting mad at the small things that in the big scheme are not that big of deal, & speaking before I spoke (certain issues).
For your final question about the kids. Three kids altogether 2 stepsons, our D. Oldest SS is at college, 14 S goes to his dad's house same weekend as I have D, I do bring him down sometimes as well when he wants to. W let's me have & see kids as much as I want; which us great.