Back home, having a very hard time!!!

[MrBond]

Think of it as an addiction. Your W is going through a number of what they call "false starts" and it happens all the time during Piecing. She's like a junkie that can't get rid of her fix.

Unfortunately this has to be her choice to kick it just like alcoholism. The problem will always be there until they acknowledge that there is a problem.

I know my initial suggestion may seem harsh, but you can also approach her with understanding and tell her that you understand that it's hard for her to stop cold turkey, but that's not being fair to you and that you can't trust her until NC is established. Tell her that you want to have faith in her again and that she needs faith in herself to do it. That a relationship and healing is started by the focus on the two of you and not a third party.