Been a while since Eric took an interest, J. But take a look at the archives like he mentioned. I think you'll see some similarities. And you may realize just how not done you really are. Tired and exhausted perhaps, but done? That won't happen for a while I suspect.
Take another look at how Eric re-wrote your previous post. It's important.
And as for kicking somebody out for their behavior? She'd do it to you Personally, I'm with Eric on that one - I'd kick anyone out soooooo much faster than I did last time, if for no other reason that I deserve better than that and I know it. At the time, I was unsure how to act, and did not throw my ex out. I wasn't done when she left, J. I'm not fast to decide such things, but I am steadfast once I do. Regardless of the consequences.
And I'm older and more seasoned now although not very wise. In my own life, I'd pack her crap and set it on the lawn while I changed the locks. Not a further word to be spoken nor a look back. That's for me.
As for the doormat idea? BS. You're no doormat and your kids know it. That's just feeling sorry for yourself. That won't help. Being a man means fighting in every way you can to keep your family together. I know I was willing to drag my soft bits through broken glass to do it. Thankfully I didn't have to do that.
Pride was not needed and still isn't in my mind. Self-love is important though.
Go read those stories, J. You'll see that you're far from done.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
Personally, I'm with Eric on that one - I'd kick anyone out soooooo much faster than I did last time, if for no other reason that I deserve better than that and I know it. At the time, I was unsure how to act, and did not throw my ex out. I wasn't done when she left, J. I'm not fast to decide such things, but I am steadfast once I do. Regardless of the consequences. 
