Back home, having a very hard time!!!

[ericmsant2]

She put up with my ch*t for way longer than she should have in my opinion.

Consider that next time you want to confront her and demand ultimatums.

I want to give my W everything that I never used to

And maybe you still can. Ever heard the term…STFU?

but I want my W back now

What about what she wants? What if she just needs a little time to work chit out. You are demanding chit from a place of weakness.

Maybe I should have just kept being a awesome H and she would have eventually stopped talking to him on her own.

Ya think? This is why we keep telling you to relax, stay calm, center yourself – we all know how emotional this is. When you are emotion are all over the place you can’t think straight, you can’t focus, you react with just emotion. That is good in the bedroom when getting busy but not when trying to address R issues.

Do yourself a favor tonight…….

DO NOT BRING IT UP. NOT TONIGHT.

You will have time to discuss it with her – not today.

So your next question is probably….what do I say if she brings it up.

Simple : Tell her you really do not want to talk about it. That if she wants, if it makes her feel better that you will listen to what she has to say but that you will not comment on anything – at least not today. Then you STFU and LISTEN.

If she decides to leave…go talk to a friend… DO NOT FLIP OUT, do not beg, cry or plead. Give her space.

Also, do not overcompensate by acting overly In Love with her. She will see right through it.

Personally, I would not go home until later – I would go do something to get myself centered.