Curious to know what your friend is recommending that you do?
I hope that I am not coming across too harsh. Simply trying to get you to see a different perspective.
The way you are feeling today will undoubtedly change. You might feel different tonight, tomorrow or even the next few minutes. Why? Because you are on an emotional roller coaster. As long as you are on that coaster, it makes it difficult to see clearly. I'd say early on, that us(LBS) are in a fog as well.
I am assuming there were times in your M, that your W was everything you ever wanted in a partner. Is that true? Then over the course of time she changed? If she changed for the worse, what makes you think that she can't change for the better? That being said, it begins with you, because you are here. You have to take the lead.
If you decide to move forward with filing, I completely respect and understand that too.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa