And how do I do that Wonka? Every boundary I have set has been met with violent spew and uprising.
My W is a child of a complete confrontational family. It's all she knows when crisis arises. I have continued to try to protect myself, my finances, and my kids during this. If I note her behavior that I will not tolerate, there will be violent confrontation. Not mind reading, I know it. So, being dark/dim and taking care of myself and being the new me isn't going to change how she behaves towards me.
I don't care if she loves me. I don't care if she's with OM. I do not care. I am tired of living with a bomb ready to explode at any moment.
Both 40 T-22 M-18 S13 S11
Bomb, ILYBINILWY-7/10/13 EA #1-confirmed 7/10/13, ongoing since 5/13 EA #2-9/13/13
