Was it? How do you know that. My guess is that you are looking at your cell phone provider on line and can see who and when she texts or calls. So how do you know what it is?
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I dont know if I can take this anymore
This goes to what LFW was trying to say to you. Mach pointed the same thing out. IMO, your actions are based on hers – period. So you are “reacting” to what she does instead of doing what YOU need or want to do for YOU. I know that some of this may not make sense to you right now. But stop for a second and ask yourself what is it that you really want and (here is the hard part) – what are you willing to do to achieve your goals?
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I guess I just have to pray she really loves me and wants to make this work.
What does loving you look like? Seriously, what does she need to do to make YOU feel loved and appreciated? Additionally, what does she need from you? Have you both been very clear about it to each other or have you both ASSUMED you knew what each other really wanted/need? Personally, in my M – neither of us knew how to communicate. Neither of us knew how to really listen. I am not saying that she is right doing what she is doing – but have you really listened to her? Are you sure that she understand what it is that she needs and wants?
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You need to do something drastic like that to show that you mean business.
I agree with Mr. Bond BUT I am not sure that today is the day to do that. You are too emotional right now. You are hurt and you have every right to be hurt. Do you know what a lion does when it is hurt?
A lion when hurt will separate itself from the pack – separate itself from danger. While separated it lays down and licks its wounds. It heals itself. It plans it’s next steps – carefully. Then when healed and when ready it joins the pack. Having learned it lesson and having healed itself. Right now, you are wounded. It is not the time to attack. Not today.
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I'm not leaving the house again
Good and you should not. Nor should your D go with her.
Indigo we all want to help you…to do so..we need your help. We need you to really take a long hard look at the questions and start answering them.
For what it is worth – I am sorry man. I’ve been there. The pain is going to feel unbearable for a bit. It will go away though…that much I can promise you.
I’ll be back in a bit.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
