separated 8 weeks still on the journey

[juliegayle]

Paul. I think the realization that your spouse in no way is still the person you married (or at least the person you thought they were) is the hardest part of all of this.

BD happens and it is a punch in the gut. Then you start working on yourself and you have expectations that w/h is doing some heavy thinking. You aid yourself the separation did not go at all like you thought.

At some point you look at your spouse and say I don't know this alien person. But I think in the beginning you (at least I did) think that is just temporary.

Then comes the realization that it is not temporary. That the person you loved is gone forever or at least for the foreseeable future. It is like a death and you have to grieve all over again.

Take time to feel all of this. Give your kids hugs and take comfort from them.

Sorry for the rambling. ..