What I meant by we are getting into a routine/set schedule is this. Both my life & W's life is rounding into shape with the other one not in the picture. W is living like a single parent (when OM is not there), kids are getting used to me not being there, & I'm getting used to living my own life without W. I still miss the whole family because my change was the greatest. Moving out of house into an apartment, living by myself instead of having W, kids, & dogs under 1 roof. The reason I moved out was because W & I were fighting for past 7-9 months about lots of things. I suggested it because in a way I felt it might save our M in the long run. I also didn't want the kids to move & disrupt their stability, even though it did to a degree once I moved out.
