We retrain our mind. We have the power to control what we think about and what we put our energy into. When your thoughts drift to them, put a stop to it and think of something positive in your life. Practice daily. It gets easier.
READ everything suggested on the boards and the divorcebusting archives--learn about what the OW really represents. She is nothing. She may think she has the power and you may give her the power with your obsessing--in reality, she is nothing. She is sad and broken.
It takes time and it still hurts on the way...but, I promise, you will get to a point where you will see the truth of this relationship with her and you will see how sad and lowly it is. It's not what you had together. He isn't capable of that right now. He needs quick and easy and needy and Yuck.
He is a broken man. You are stronger than he is right now. He needs weak. You're more woman than he can handle right now.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
