Thank you so much - it is such a comfort to hear a voice of reason and objectivity. Lois -as you rightly say - it has only been 5 weeks. In that time I have had to deal with so much - it has been really tough on a practical level - moving all of our things from his house, finding an apartment - trying to keep my daughter going, my job going, our health covered... I have shelved thinking about OW too much because I havent been able to take it on. I think today has thrown me into reality about her and him ...the betrayal is hitting hard. Very hard.... Job - you have made mention of the way MLC ers delete the old life. He has CERTAINLY done that with myself and D - although he seems to be active and in contact with friends etc. It just seems to be is that he has deleted. In keeping with that he was quick to start cleaning his house, almost before i could get everything out.....He wanted this new life to start as quickly as possible.... WAP is avoiding so much. There has been no real closure on this (except in practical terms). Just BD, a few emails to organise collection of our things and thats it. He has made no ATTEMPT to address any feeling about this - at least to anyone I know.... As I said I dont hold great store in social media - I think it can be dangerous - but his removal of me and blocking , whilst no surprise (I am sure it happens all the time) sort of cements in my head that he has moved on. That he is fine with his new life - just the way he wants it....(or so it seems) I know I am rambling - I am sorry - I am just trying to feel more settled and detached - My belief that this is depression - in mu upset - is less today. I have been so sure but today I feel less so - I feel more as if OW and he are sailing off into a proverbial sunset of perfectly matched happiness (and yoga). I guess all of us, in the early stages after BD - feel this way if there is another person involved. The MLCers can make it seem as if they have found the solution to their happiness through this person and this new life - and they make it seems so believable dont they - they make it seem as if their decision to run and to delete the LBS is the BEST thing they could have done for them.... Love me deep down - I just dont see ANYTHING that would even come close to hinting at that.... Thanks for listening x
