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Re: I may have done too much TipAnna #2428662 02/06/14 03:29 PM
Joined: Jan 2014 Posts: 58 Maine D D2ndday OP Member
OP D2ndday Member D Joined: Jan 2014 Posts: 58 Maine	TipAnna, Your right! Although it is a concept I struggle with all the time. I am talking about it needing to be about me. Going from being the caregiver, to being an independent. A friend visited us like 2 years ago. I had not seen him since we got married. He made this comment, "man, what happened to you, you used to be such a leader, and now you work around her schedule." At the time, I blew that off, like, "oh you don't know what your talking about, this is marriage, this is what you do, its compromise." I thought this, did not say it like that to him. But now, it comes to mind. I did loose that side of me. I became fixated on taking care of her every need. I did not want her to want. When we had met I was independent, and maybe losing that hurt things also. It falls in the timeline. So getting back to being confident. Like you said, "and what if? You'll deal with it if that does happen." I can see I still zig zag back to worrying about her. But I can see that, and also that that needs to stop. I need to keep my mind on me. What is best for me, what will make me happy. Sometimes easier said than done, but trying. I think I am making some progress there. Also, from DB reading, Gonna take smaller steps instead of trying to do everything at once. Patience remembered. Me:36 Her:35 together 11yrs M 7 1/2yrs lived together 10yrs 2dogs 2cats Mortgage on a house bomb dropped 01/12/14 Separate bedrooms/W stays here some nights I want to stay married

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I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/21/14 05:12 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/22/14 05:11 PM
(NA) Re: I may have done too much	KarenR	01/22/14 06:32 PM
(NA) Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/22/14 10:15 PM
Re: (NA) Re: I may have done too much	25yearsmlc	01/30/14 02:31 AM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	01/24/14 07:12 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/25/14 05:37 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/29/14 04:20 AM
Re: I may have done too much	FlyOnTheWall	01/29/14 06:52 AM
Re: I may have done too much	TipAnna	01/29/14 03:12 PM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	01/29/14 06:45 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	01/29/14 05:07 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/29/14 11:13 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	01/30/14 12:18 AM
Re: I may have done too much	FlyOnTheWall	01/30/14 01:06 AM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	01/30/14 11:31 PM
Re: I may have done too much	inafog	01/31/14 03:58 AM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/02/14 08:18 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/03/14 04:56 AM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	02/03/14 08:16 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/04/14 05:08 AM
Re: I may have done too much	TipAnna	02/05/14 01:24 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/06/14 03:29 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/06/14 09:16 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/08/14 06:06 AM
Re: I may have done too much	Lifes Twists	02/08/14 03:16 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/16/14 04:05 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/16/14 05:13 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/17/14 03:42 AM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/18/14 11:29 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/18/14 04:39 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/18/14 07:44 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/19/14 03:22 AM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/19/14 04:14 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/19/14 05:50 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/19/14 06:53 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/20/14 04:13 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/20/14 06:49 PM
Re: I may have done too much	blinded	02/20/14 08:14 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/20/14 11:31 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/21/14 04:45 AM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	02/21/14 03:52 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/21/14 05:24 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/22/14 04:17 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/22/14 06:18 PM
Re: I may have done too much	TipAnna	02/22/14 08:51 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/22/14 10:21 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/23/14 12:09 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/23/14 03:24 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/23/14 03:59 AM
Re: I may have done too much	trying very hard	02/23/14 01:04 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/23/14 04:24 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/24/14 03:00 AM
Re: I may have done too much	TipAnna	02/24/14 02:25 PM
Re: I may have done too much	zew	02/24/14 03:52 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/26/14 04:04 PM
Re: I may have done too much	zew	02/26/14 06:33 PM
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Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/15/14 03:18 PM
Re: I may have done too much	ye21	03/15/14 03:46 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/16/14 09:47 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/17/14 03:58 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/17/14 06:33 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	03/18/14 02:34 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Wonka	03/18/14 02:42 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	03/18/14 08:33 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/19/14 03:32 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/21/14 12:27 AM
Re: I may have done too much	ye21	03/21/14 01:59 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/21/14 03:10 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/21/14 04:55 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/22/14 03:47 PM
Re: I may have done too much	ye21	03/22/14 05:04 PM
Re: I may have done too much	paul19510	03/22/14 07:46 PM
Re: I may have done too much	paul19510	03/22/14 07:49 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Duds3	03/22/14 09:03 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/24/14 04:39 PM
Re: I may have done too much	blinded	02/24/14 08:05 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/25/14 04:05 AM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 03:12 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 03:23 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 03:28 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/25/14 03:54 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 04:42 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 05:01 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/26/14 05:01 AM
Re: I may have done too much	zew	02/25/14 04:07 PM
Re: I may have done too much	InLikeFlynn	02/17/14 03:42 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/31/14 04:06 AM
Re: I may have done too much	inafog	01/31/14 04:14 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/31/14 04:28 PM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	01/31/14 07:34 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/01/14 05:13 PM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	01/29/14 06:41 PM
Re: I may have done too much	knittedscarff	02/03/14 06:06 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/03/14 07:12 PM

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