Newbie needs help:husband left Saturday

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Yes, dx, doing it all alone is really hard and the advice Job gave you is excellent, as always.

I've been following your thread for a while now and can sympathize with you being the hard working one who is expected by law to 'support' someone who doesn't deserve it. He's a 'healthy' man who can get himself a job and take care of himself. After all, he's the one who left! I don't make that much more than my H and when the mediator told us he might be entitled to spousal support I felt as though I had been slapped in the face AGAIN! He gets 2.5 months off in the summer, could get a second job, and actually does do side work for money under the table - good money. Although he says he wouldn't ask for it, as time goes on that may change. I may have to bring up those points.

Anyway, you are doing the best you can, you are getting great advice and support here, and hopefully a year from now things will look a whole lot better. But for now, march on, even if it is 2 steps forward 1 step back - at least you're going in the right direction.

Loved canyou?'s post. Should go in the archives. I copied it and pasted it on a word document to read and re-read. Ya, some pretty sage advice for someone so new at this. Wonder if he's been here before???

Take care, dx. We're all out here looking out for you.