Paul, I hope you do sleep well tonight. Your W definitely has some issues she needs to address. I feel sorry for her too . . . she just sounds kind of lost.
I am appalled at the conversations your W is having with your D! WTH? I am kind of mad at her for dragging your D into her turmoil. That is so unfair to a 16 year old kid . . . she should not have to carry that burden. I am glad that your D has you there to be her sane parent.
Hope you sleep well and find some peace with your sitch.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14