I waded through your most recent previous thread and this one. The reason why I suspect that what your H is going through MLC is this:
H constantly criticizing your GAL activities, being a social butterfly (he's so unhappy so he doesn't want you to be happy)
H choosing not to fully participate in Retrou
H saying "I feel trapped" (classic MLC line)
Not interested in working on the M. Just going through the motions of life.
Doing crazy and unpredictable stuff like taking out large sums of cash
Blowing up over the simplest things
H looks awful and has glassy eyes
OW
Feeling nothing for you (this is MLC numbness)
Honey, when H dropped the bomb on you...did he experience a recent loss such as getting fired, losing someone close to death (best friend, family member)?
I am so sorry that you're going through this. It's no picnic at all! MLCers are very depressed with a lot of anger, discomfort, and a overwhelming sense of helplessness. Their coping skills break down slowly over time.
Unfortunately, you do have a huge target on your back since you are perceived to be the source of their unhappiness in their mind since you are tangible. They cannot figure out why all of their neutrons are misfiring in all directions.
