do you think this info could be construed as oppositional? The take care of yourself from now on part? I completely understand how I'm not his mother, and this was part of our marriage's problem, but don't want to come across as a b1tch or bossy as, again, one of the problems of our marriage
Not really. You're setting a boundary and letting H know that it is his responsibility to seek out school-related information since he's the one who wanted out of the M. The suggested response isn't bossy or bitchy at all. You're communicating to H about the parent-teacher meeting with just the facts. And leave it at that. His choice to attend or not.
