His view is that we do not have anything in common: politics, tv shows, movies, etc. These are his examples, he also said that about a year ago he realized that every conversation we had ended in an arguement. He is not at all specific with me about anything else. We have always had different views and some different interests, but it has not been an issue for 16 years (it seemed). And last year was a tough time because that is when my H got his promotion and he was under a great deal of stress.
My H has a little bt of a history of withdrawling because of job stress. Way back in the beginning of our relationship, H started a new business and could not handle a relationship and his work, so we broke up and got back together 8 months later (we where just dating), he also withdrew after our first child was born and we moved closer to family.
I talk about that history because I kept thinking things would get better once he gained confidence in his job. This was probably mind reading on my part. I have come to the realization that I do this alot, and not just with my husband.
Brian, thank you so much for your post. It really made me tear up because I do feel suddenly alone with all of this and I really appreciate your words. I am a stay at home mom, and have left most of the money decisions up to my H, I completly trusted him. I am very scared of the financial end of this. It is making it hard to try to process the emotional side of losing my husband because I‘m in survial mode. My H is moving at full speed and I'm fighting the urge to fall into the habit of deffering to him.
Sorry for the long post, I also want to note that my oldest got her braces off today, and while I'm so happy for her, it still had a cloud over the happiness. I really want this part to stop, I want to get to a place where it will.
M45 H46 M16 yrs D17, D10, D7 DB 1-23-2014 H filed D 2-14-2014
