About as messy as trying to push back Play-Doh through the machine cranking out different shapes.
I did hear, via 6 page letter, all about his demands though.
How was it outlined? Which format and from whom was it delivered?
but I spent 1.5 hours on my rebuttle.
How did you work on this rebuttal? With your own L? Not clear on this part.
I'm thinking of sending H a text along these lines
"Hi H. Just wondering if you'd be able to come get your tools and camping stove w/tank in the next week? If you can't i understand I'll place everything at the side of the house, covered in plastic that you can pick up at your convenience".
Zip it. Say nothing to H since it is now a part of the negotiation/business transaction with the L. Step away from this.
S14's parent teacher is on Tuesday. I had no plans to mention it to H as he's made no move to appear to want to be involved, and he can look at the school website just like I did, of do I initiate contact about that as well? Too much contact? Leave it be??
If I were you, I'd make sure that H has the contacts from the school so that way he receives communication from the school on upcoming parent-teacher conferences, meetings, and other pertinent details for S14. Then let H handle it all by himself from that point and on. H is a big boy and knows how to get information.
I guess I could say "s14 has parent teacher Tuesday. I plan to be at the school by 6 for if you would like to attend"?
You can say, "H, please be advised that there's a parent-teacher meeting this Tuesday at xxx pm for S14. After this message, you will need to take the responsibility for obtaining this type of information from the school yourself going forward. The contact information is posted at the school's website. WR"
This way H will need to learn to be responsible for his own actions or lack of actions when it comes to parenting your children. Which is why I posted that particular gem from Betsey on boundaries. You are not H's mother when it comes to communications from the school.
