So sorry about the recent events. He was a jerk to leave them there on the anniversary date....seems like he is still hurting thus wanted to hurt you by doing that, maybe he was looking for a negative reaction to make his desicion to D valid.

Protect your self and do what is best for you.
stay as positive as you can, dont let the negative thoughts and feelings win.
To blame you for everything, he is clearly not of a balanced mind.....release him to go on him journey. You continue on yours and keep making your self better....your hard work will be of benefit to you.

me: 30 H:30
tgthr:7 m:4
no kids
5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012
long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012
official BD: July 2013
nothing filed
1/1/14 I dropped the rope