Blues - While I am sad to see that your h is in the middle of a crisis, I am glad that you are able to find some piece and happiness at H. It is a nice feeling to no longer have to tip toe around and live in a battle field. After BD, I was desperate for H to be at the house. After I found DBing and started to get in gear, I could not wait for H to get out of the house. I remember locking the front door behind him, exhaling and enjoying every second of just being ME. It was refreshing. It still does not take away all of the sadness and anger. I cant see any good coming our of interactions with your H in his current state. He wanted to desperately leave and find happiness "out there." SO let him go look. We all know that he is not going to find it. Focus on yourself and the kids. You cant fix your H.
