[quote] He would tell me I was not normal, that other people weren't like this, that I was waaayyy on the wrong end of a spectrum, etc. And he would come up with this stuff after "extrapolating" (his words) from what I said instead of taking what I said at face value. Random example: I would say let's not go snorkeling with the kids today because there was a shark spotted at our beach this morning; the same beach where a woman had her arm bitten off by a shark 5 days ago. And he would say, "you don't ever let them do anything fun or have experiences - you just want to keep them in a bubble." In that case, there was no reasonable argument. It was a bunch of always and nevers (which I asked him a billion times to please stop using, and he refused), and accusations that didn't even match up with what I said or anywhere near what I thought, or anything even resembling reality.
I laughed when I read this because my H and I have had the same argument a million times with a bunch of always and nevers thrown around. Come on M, you should know by now that you just have to live life and if your kid gets eaten by a shark, it will just be a good story to tell buddies while out drinking Men! My H always accused me of being a hypochondriac and for taking the kids to the doctor when they were sick. This is probably why my H's colon burst at the age of 32 and he went into shock before he got himself to the hospital because he took some tums and thought the pain would eventually go away.
While I know that your H is acting like an a$$ right now and definitely has some things that he needs to work on, make sure that you dont rewrite history. I would not starting questioning whether or not your M was doomed from the start. By all means, point out your H's faults because he has many. But also don't let his actions now define your entire history together. Our Hs have rewritten history. And I know that all LBS HATE it. They have taken a handful of events and arguments from the past and decided that those events are representative of the entire M. They have lost sight of all the good times. Don't follow in their path.
We already know that you are a smart chick!! Which leads me to believe that your H has not always been like this. Yes he has his things that he needs to work on. You still love your H and all the good things that he offered. We all know that we hope that our Hs eventually stop rewriting history and remember the good things we offer instead of just the bad.
Men! My H always accused me of being a hypochondriac and for taking the kids to the doctor when they were sick. This is probably why my H's colon burst at the age of 32 and he went into shock before he got himself to the hospital because he took some tums and thought the pain would eventually go away. 
