So you are doing awesome JF. Just awesome. You have some great poster helping out. Listen to what they say.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
New job started Monday. Great stuff so far. Driving S12 to and from school has been really cool. He and I spent several hours together working on a school project and playing basketball. Great times.
W continues to try to push me away from the children. She took over the project situation and then any suggestion I made was met with looks like I had no idea what I was talking about. At one point, S12 was watching her roll her eyes and make faces at my suggestions. I went about my business and he told me this morning that they didn't get much done. Guess he and I will work on it this afternoon anyway.
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She took over the project situation and then any suggestion I made was met with looks like I had no idea what I was talking about.
Huh? How'd that happen? Is she suddenly bigger than you? Did she hold a gun to your head? Did your son ask her to take over?
And when she took over, why were you making suggestions? That seems odd and out of place.
Be careful J. You don't want to get into a competition. That would be a bad thing to say the least. Be direct and be firm in your boundaries. Don't sink to the competition level of things.
Make sense? AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
My XW displayed the same sort of behavior. She pretty much checked out for a while and then wanted or realized that the kids were gravitating a bit more to me.
Having lived it...I wonder if you may be walking a little bit on eggshells. If you are, it usually does not work. Be you. Do what you want to do. You do need to always step back.
AJ makes a very good point. A lot of times, the LBS become closer to the kids (kids aint stupid they can see crazy), then when the MLCer decides to reengage, the LBS is left feeling like they again are being discarded.
Always think about the kids. Try and look at things from their perspective. They probably can tell that mom is bachit crazy, but that is still there mom. They are still going to want to spend time with her and do stuff with her. So as AJ says...it isn't a competion. If something like this happens again, then try and go out and do something for JF.
Peace Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
