and being angry about how crappy he is making me feel,
Noone can make you feel anything.
It's up to you to say to yourself, "X does this, and I don't like it. I need to consider why I'm angry." Or maybe it's " when X does that, I get angry. I know it's unreasonable, so I'll figure out why it bothers me so much."
I'll bet my mortgage that it's tied to: "X did that, and I'm hurt because he didn't consider my feelings when he did that. I made it worse by not letting him know (in a loving way) that I was hurt, so I'm angrier at myself for not speaking up."
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
