She left - My Story, First Post

[gogofo]

We must have been really stressed, overworked, and tired because I keep hearing from the close friends and family that I have disclosed the situation to that they were "worried for us" or wondered "how long we could last at our pace". We are both really goal driven, but now know that my goal needs to be family and M, not just work.

I need to work on my conversational skills, but with baby steps and patience my goal is to increase discussions about what she has going on in her life. I keep reminding myself that patience will bring this about.

I constantly asked about her day and school over the last 6 months, but my stress killed my ability to listen and I was in problem solving mode (damn engineering school). A big 180 of mine is listening with the heart and emotion,not trying to problem solve, and STFU.