I know this is hard, but it gets easier, you CANNOT focus on what she's doing right now. It doesn't matter what she's reading or doing or saying, etc. Its ALL about what you must do, and it sounds like you def. have some work ahead of you.
If you can become the man only a fool would leave, then those books wont matter in the long run.
When it comes to family, I'd recommend prob not saying anything to anyone really. If someone does have something they want to question. A good safe answer is always "We're working on some things" end of discussion. No matter what you say or how you say it, it never comes back around the way you meant it. So play it safe. Do you have a friend that you can confide in? or ONE family member, a brother or sister you can trust go keep it all to themselves? There can be no maybe's here. You have to be sure.
