So since my funeral and flight back things have been amazing mostly. My H gutted the whole house and cleaned - including the toilet and oven! He has been doing lots of really lovely gestures etc etc. I know the R talk is looming and wonder if he is thinking that also - we agreed that we would clean up the 'mess' that was his break up with the OW, get over xmas and new year and then we would talk about us and our sitch. Which to my understanding was him to move back out. But of course he has done everything in his power to contribute to the house, to me, to the kids etc etc to make it pretty clear he isn't/doesn't want to go anywhere. Yesterday he mentioned about renovating the room he had been staying in, which I thought he would want still there 'in case' but his attention to me has been pretty amazing. I'm just so damn scared. What if this has gone back to quickly? how do I know this is right? and how the hell do I bring up this topic - the topic of us now moving forward. Kind of scared of scaring him off with 'talk' as he has such trouble doing it. He has always had trouble with communication and resolutions. I read the DB book and think it is my approach but trying to rack my brain as to how I need to raise this.
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Never allow kindness be misinterpreted for weakness. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.
