Job - have been reading as much as I can from the thread you posted to me re depression - this has been so helpful. thank you. I now realise that this is EXACTLY what has been happening re WAP. I have no doubts whatsoever. He admitted himself that he was depressed in BD. I thought it was just a line he was using but the more i read the more I think that was the one bit of clarity he was able to give to me.... However, from what little I know, since BD he seems to be a lot happier - self medicating with OW, rejuvenation etc... Surely depression doesn't go so quickly. Is this running still part of depression? He blamed me fro the depression he has/had so that in itself is surely telling? just trying to work through this slowly but surely Any advice would be welcome.....post BD are they still going through the depression - even though they are acting relieved etc? I x