Thanks Wonka. I am not trying to come across as being superior to the W. It was just nice to hear that others are seeing both sides to the sitch better. I do agree, she is on her own path, right or wrong, it is still her choice how she goes along that track.
Yes, I have been thinking about the gift. It is hard to buy 21st these days. Anyway at Xmas time I did ask the son if she liked tea, his reply came to late for that pressie, but I remembered it today. So we have some lovely tea shops around our area. So will look at buying her a nice unique tea pot with a variety of different teas.
You are more than welcome Wonka to hit me with those 2 x 4's if you think I am starting to one up myself too much :-)
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.