one interesting thing the Christmas trip debacle led to was a discussion with my D, about traveling. She prefers to stay at home, especially over Christmas, while I prefer to travel and escape the Swedish winter. She values having her brother at home then, togetherness, and escaping from the daily world a bit (which tends to stress her out).
We discussed where she could imagine going to again, and she said Japan (we went there a long time ago, all 4 of us, a year after my W left our bed), so maybe a trip there is a possibility. Taking a friend with her there would definitely be an extravagance, but is not outside the realm of possibility - we'll see.
Writing my D a letter is an interesting idea. I do tell her that I love her (my phone or text sign off is "love and kisses") and that doing so and helping her "is my rule", and we do have a nice time together when we can be without my W. My W is such a dominating presence sometimes, though, that this can distort things.
Having a good relationship with D is important to me. She is the only nearby person that gives me love sometimes, which is so wonderful when it happens. My leading her manifests itself mostly as doing stuff together, such as a day skiing in a few weeks. Going to the new Disney movie Frozen is another possibility.
Thanks for the further ideas and pointers on working on this. I'll see if I can cobble together a letter and get back to you.
L
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
