M- the "talk" is for us to keep growing, not them. That's why my IC wants me to wait until I'm at a point where it truly doesn't matter what his reaction is. For ME, this is especially important because I tend to bottle everything in because I am not comfortable showing emotion. The talk is a 180 for me
But, I think anyone should do it! I see it like journaling. The paper won't respond, either. But it still feels good to write it down.
That is interesting. I would think if you get to the point where his reaction doesn't matter, you have probably grown and detached so much, that the original intent is irrelevant by then.
I see it as pressuring. It is likely that you are not going to get the reaction that you hoped for. I hear Paul saying that his needs have not been met for a long time and he is tired of eating crumbs. I get that. He has to be genuinely ready to move on to have the talk and it not affect him. I can assure you, if it is not genuine, his W will know it.
His words and actions must align. Paul...I know this is your thread, I apologize for talking like you're not in the room.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
