separated 8 weeks still on the journey

[melissag]

My IC told me I absolutely MUST tell my H at some point how his behavior is impacting other peoples lives and how it makes me feel. The kicker is, I can't do it until his reaction to my statement makes no difference.

My IC told me the same, but I disagree. It is bad enough the way I feel right now (hurt, kicked around, angry, etc.) But telling my H, who couldn't possibly care less how I feel right now wold only make it worse! I mean, half the reason I am so hurt is because he spent so long invalidating my feelings. So how is it going to help for me to give him another chance to invalidate me?

Just my $.02. I'm not even sure some of our Hs/Ws deserve to know how we feel, frankly.