separated 8 weeks still on the journey

[artsy]

I didn't know this was separation 2, or that there was such a history of issues. (Sorry- I must have glossed over that).

It sounds to me like you're definitely resentful, maybe a tad angry. Let yourself feel it! You're entitled to feel however you feel. It seems your stance changes often, though.

My IC told me I absolutely MUST tell my H at some point how his behavior is impacting other peoples lives and how it makes me feel. The kicker is, I can't do it until his reaction to my statement makes no difference. As far as I've come, I'm definitely not there yet- but I get closer every day!

Same would go for you- if you're ready to move on, do it! But it seems you're not quite there yet because you still are emotionally attached to her behavior- just today you had anxiety. You'll get there soon enough. Have you been going to IC? Not DB coaching- I think everyone should be required to go to IC. Lol you need to figure out YOU outside of your M.

Just some thoughts...