I am surprisingly centered right now. I am calmly going to ask her how I can believe her this time. Changing number would not work, she knows his so that point is mute. She needs to be willing to openly share the phone records would be the only solution I can see. W claims she wants us to work more than anything. I have already told her that can't happen if she is still talking to him.
So how do you envision this ^^^ working for you ???
What end result are you looking for, to justify the means in which you seek it ???
I understand that you are looking for transparency here, and I do not blame you for that. That is part of the rebuilding of trust that HAS to happen slowly over the course of reconnecting.
Trust is the hardest thing to gain, and the easiest thing to lose, and it requires the "blind faith" of a Nun.
You trust, yet you verify. That is what will build that trust back. Not painting your face in Camo, and watching her every move, waiting to pounce on everything negative. That's just creepy there.
How many things above, have changed from the guy that first posted here, and was UN-bendable in having things go his way ?
Do you trust her ?
Should you trust her ?
Are you willing to trust her ??
Have you forgiven her ??
More importantly....have you forgiven yourself ???
Originally Posted By: indigo1
She mentioned that she is still getting calls from a block number that never responds when she answers and said she thinks it OM's W. She watches enough life time movies to know where crap like this can lead.
Seems that this ^^^, is a step in trying to gain and rebuild your trust.
Six months ago, you would have walked through Hell with a pair of Gasoline Underoos on for this outcome...
Yes ??
Originally Posted By: indigo1
I really hope this goes smooth. I have the strength to tell her to leave if she does not stop this. I will not leave the house. If she wants to fine.
Wish me luck. I feel proud of myself for finally standing up to this situation.
