Back home, having a very hard time!!!

[ericmsant2]

Indigo
Now that you have put that boundary in place – your best best is not to sway from it.
You say that you are going to speak to her about it. Have you figured out what you are gonna say? Do you have any idea of how she will show you that she is serious. If it is change the number then from my own personal experience that is not going to work. My ex ended up purchasing a couple of different phones.
I applaude you for standing up for yourself.
A couple of pointers on how the conversation may or should go..

1) Keep your cool
2) No need to scream
3) Do not agree to anything per se – a simple “I will think about it” should sufffice.
4) Accept that chances are you are emotional and R convo’s when you are emotional usually do not bode well for the LBS. So make sure you are centered.
5) Whatever you do – DO NOT LEAVE the house this time.
6) Firm but respectful should be the approach.
7) Do yourself a favor and do not blame yourself for the entire failure here. Chance are she will want to put the blame on you. Own your chit NOT hers.
8) Realize that she owns her choices and the consequences for her choices.
9) Do not bring your D into the discussion.
10) Listen….listen very cleary to what she says. A lot of times the root of the issues is buried in what the WAS is saying. So listen.


Good luck,
Eric