work is good; H is crazy

[Whiterose]

Hi Portia

I have a loan secured, with a separation agreement agreed upon for a certain amount, and as soon as he agrees to it I can assume the mortgage and pay him out. I'm asking for what I'm entitled to and not any more. If he decides not to pay I take my agreement to family maintenance, government agency, that takes over and will go to his HR and say taxes first my payment second and whatever is left at the end will be his.......they don't screw around. Legally I don't even have to wait for a missed payment I can set it up now but then his HR would know and it would make him look bad so I'm just leaving it as is.

I have to rely on spousal/child support. Don't most people? I'm not independently wealthy and have children to care for. I do understand your train of thought though.

Life does go on. I have better days than others. Still have a finger on the rope, as it were, the "just maybe" hasn't truly left me yet. Coming up on a year to BD in April. It's been a ride