It is so OK to rant and rave. We all need an outlet and sometimes it is really nice to have a forum friend help you see things in another way.
You are a caring person, Nero. There is no shame or blame in that. I believe that kindness is an underrated quality.
You are loyal. Family and promises mean something to you. Committment means something to you.
It seems in the greater world, things like loyalty, committment and honesty and obligation have fallen out of favour and have been replaced by selfishness, make yourself happy and if there is nothing in it for you, then don't do it.
I remember helping out my mother's friend when she got herself into some trouble. At the same time my cousin asked me for my help and I said I she would have to wait a day or two. She then asked me what I was getting out of helping my mother's friend, why would I do it? Never realizing that I could very well be asking that same question of why I would help her.
You know from my thread that I struggle with family that only seems to be around when they need something from me. Try saying no! They just keep calling and calling and calling.
I wish I could figure out a happy medium Nero, for both of us. But don't ever stop posting your feelings. It helps me not to feel alone.
