melissag XII - must. detach.

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Sorry for the diarrhea of the keyboard today. For anyone who is following along, you must really not have much to do today at work.

So like 25 said, what is the harm in thinking this through. Now if there is the chance that you don't post everything your H says, then this probably changes things. I'm not speaking about him having affairs, but I'm addressing the looming e-mail he wrote to you. Do you actually know what he means by not dragging this out?

The harm is that he may give up his partnership interest, which will cost me a LOT of money. Like in the six figures.

Now, if I file, and he gives up his interest, that will be considered dissipation of marital assets, and he, rather than I, will be the one who gets screwed.

(Not that I want him to get screwed, that's his own issue if he wants to screw himself, but I want to make sure I don't get screwed.)

I have posted just about everything my H has said on this matter. He has said at least three times that he wants to get on with it, and doesn't want to drag it out. He doesn't want to be married anymore. And, let's remember, he said that he "need[s] to make decisions about [his] life and career that are impacted by these discussions," so he wants me to hurry up with my response.

I am not sure there is any way to reasonably interpret that other than that he wants to get divorced sooner rather than later.