work is good; H is crazy

[Whiterose]

Hi Job!!! It's been a while since here.....I've been busy, and just doing my stuff, and trying to get through this mess.

S19 is doing well. Hates school, I don't think he actually does, but, the drama of saying it. Lol. Still working and volunteering with the fire fighter academy.
S14's perianal abscess is back. Took him to the dr and started off with warm baths, which didn't help much so now he's antibiotics and I'm scheduling an appointment with a gi specialist as this is the second time, I have Crohn's and I have a family history of people with ibs, I need to confirm that this is not the reason for it. I had decided to tell H about taking S14 to the dr after I visited with him and his response was "oh sh!t, really" to which I replied yes. It was a "s's abscess is back. I've taken him to the dr and scheduled a gi consult. I'll keep you posted to his progress". Got a "I asked him and he said he was fine" I didn't respond although I wanted to ask when he had asked. Early the next morning he asked how son was as he had not heard anything. I wanted to say you didint ask anything but just elaborated a bit on drs orders and got an "ok" in response. Haven't heard from him since.

I did hear, via 6 page letter, all about his demands though. He wants his stuff (furniture and tools), he wants to give me spousal for 5 years when I'm entitled to 16, wants to share custody, wants to split S14's schooling, only wants to give me 150/month for S19, wants me to give up any rights to his cpp (Canadian pension plan) so I guess I'll be on the street in my 60's, wants me to look into other mortgage options as they think that I can find a lender that will grant me a mortgage for less money than I need from H now, and I have until feb 4 to decide or the offer is off the table and he wants to put the house up for sale. Needless to say I'll be responding after the 4th. Try and make me sign my name to sell the house. The mortgage is in good standing so it won't go into foreclosure and I highly doubt a judge will force me to sell it with a minor child in residence when I've secured a mortgage on the basis of money from h I'm entitled to......haven't discussed it much with my L but I spent 1.5 hours on my rebuttle. Including that I want sole custody as he's a crap dad. He's also trying to say I had no right to make a unilateral decision in regards to lowering tenant's rent in exchange for work around the house as I did not ask H to complete the jobs first. I laughed. Then listed 4 differnt times I had and his response to each and then asked at what point do I get to say "he's not interested" and get the work done. He's still crying poor me about having to pay the visas, support, and rent. I pretty much said I didn't care that I also pay family debt and continue to support my kids and do it without complaint to H so I suggest he do the same.

I am wanting the space in the tool shed for some reorganing I'm trying to do and am thinking of sending H a text along these lines

"Hi H. Just wondering if you'd be able to come get your tools and camping stove w/tank in the next week? If you can't i understand I'll place everything at the side of the house, covered in plastic that you can pick up at your convenience".

I'm sure he'll have a fit but I need the space, he wants his stuff, and so anyone have thoughts??