25-- This is exactly what I meant when I said that most people do the best job they can; but some people are just clearly lacking the skills of discernment and logic. Hell, let's just call a spade a spade... some people are just not taught how to think things through to consequences. PTA mom sounds like the very image of someone who just lacked that ability to think it through?
This is totally my H . . . he never thinks through things, and it's because he doesn't want to. He has told me many times that he prefers to just live his life not worrying about anything, and just take it as it comes. (Since he moved out, he has gone ahead and just written checks for things without telling me or keeping track - he doesn't even know the password to look at our account online.) Which is all fine and good for him. The problem comes in when there are other people counting on him.
Illustration: when D9 was a baby, he would just grab the diaper bag (or maybe not even do that) when taking her somewhere. He never checked to see if there were diapers or wipes or whatever in there. So we would be somewhere, and we would have no pacifier and D9 would scream. Or, as happened once, I removed her poopy diaper and then found there were no clean diapers in the bag. (Granted, this is not the end of the world, but isn't life a little easier without dealing with baby crises like these?) So I suggested we make a little list to make it easier, and he could just peek in the bag when he grabbed it and make sure we had what we needed. He said no. He doesn't want to check a list.
Anyway, all this to say that my H is exactly like this, but I am not sure that he will see any of the consequences (if they come to pass) as bad.
So you see why I am not real optimistic about any sort of R . . .
Though, as a side note, he did tell me a couple months ago, that he wanted to be friends and chat and stuff, but certainly not about me dating anyone. ha.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
