Never worried about hijacking threads SP..The more knowledge we gather from others experience's the better equipped we become to deal with our own sitch's. With that said, as I continue to seek knowledge in handling my owm sitch a rare contact from my WAS was received Saturday. A short cold 2 sentence email announcing the death of her dad, my FIL.
The man and I got along very very well. He really was a kindly old man who was 84 at the time of his death Saturday. No other info was offered from her except she acknowledged how "fond" I was of him. Maybe fond is an appropriate description in her mind but in all honesty she knows it was a more than that. My response was "This is sad news, I'm sorry. Thank you for letting me know."
Even if I was given the details of the funeral I would not be able to attend. It will be several hundred miles away and since I am not being provided the arrangements it is a clear signal WAS does not want me there. The coldness continues but I am okay with that anymore.
